Only 5 more days until Christmas. I am pretty much ready. Packages are wrapped. Things that needed to be mailed went out today. Christmas cards are done. Overall I am ahead and more in balance than many years.
Yet I had a real gut punch last night. One of my kiddos was just down-right mean. Its not like this is the only time I have seen this mean side but lately it has increased more and more. I have assumed that it would resolve itself on its own. I have prayed to see what I should do. And then last night I was just completely shocked.
I’m grateful that my world is usually much more kind than that. So what did I do?
I talked to the child with hubby in tow. I shared how much it hurt my feelings. The child agreed that s/he had been mean but made no attempt to apologize. That was the hard part. I then got ready for bed and had my sweetheart hold me as I hold him how hard it is to have a child be so mean and seem to not care at all. Hubby had made it clear that this child needed to apologize to me, when s/he could do so genuinely.
I got up this morning and did my best to be loving. Wished the child to have a good day, told him/her that I loved him/her. But still felt so sad inside that my offspring would treat me so poorly.
Within an hour of being at school s/he texts me asking if I could come over to the school because s/he needed my signature on a paper. Boy did I want to just ignore that text … but I didn’t. I made it clear that I wasn’t going to sign something without having time to read it. We arranged to meet at lunch time. When s/he came out to get in the car, s/he looked me in the eyes and apologized for last night.
Sigh of relief!
But I am still wondering what is going on with this child. Will still be praying and talking to him/her to try and help out.
Hopefully that Scrooge got some of the scrooginess out last night and we won’t see more of it for a very long time.
I clearly have a very tender heart. I know that can be a good thing but it can also be really rough when someone stomps on it.
So thankful for my sweetie who totally backed me up. Don’t know what I would do without him.
Wishing you all of the best things of Christmas — and none of the grumpies that can tend to come out this time of year.